What's a Groom To Do?
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Alright fellas, this one is all about you.... So pay close attention and take notes!:) The old saying goes, “A man never knows how unimportant he
is until he goes to his own wedding.” Though this may have been true a
decade ago, it is far from the case today. Long gone are the days that the
groom is only responsible for popping the question and being on time at the
church. Today’s couple is all about compromise and collaboration! So the
ultimate question is, what’s a groom to do?
I feel like this question is asked a lot today. What’s
appropriate for the groom? How can he be involved and add his own personal
touches? The answer, anytime and everywhere! This day is about two people
uniting and starting their knew life together, while also having some fun and
drinking some bubbly! So why shouldn’t this be the same for the
collaboration of the bride and groom. This should all start when the happy
couple sit down to first discuss their ideas and expectations for their
special, once in a lifetime day. This is when that pesky compromise comes into
play! This helps distinguish exactly what the bride and groom want right off
the bat without any confusion. Once it’s been discussed and a vision’s
been made, the fun really starts!
The lovely and timeless Emily Post has taught us that there are
specific things that a groom is required to do. Here are just a few….
• Choosing
the groomsmen
• Choosing
the groomsmen attire
• Selecting
thank-you gifts for the groomsmen
• Arranging
(and paying for) lodging for the groom’s wedding party
• Picking
a gift for the bride
• Compiling
the groom’s part of the guest list
• Planning
the honeymoon
• Giving
the officiate the fee for conducting the ceremony
• Buying
the marriage license
• Planning
the bachelor party
• “The
Groom’s Toast”
• Dancing
the first dance with the bride, dancing with the couple’s mother and maid
of honor
These items are just a few of the many things that Miss Post
tells us is correct form. But what we are learning today is that there are so
many other things that the groom can do. He can attend the vendor appointments,
pick out wedding colors, hire the band or DJ, choose the cake, and etc. If the
groom loves to play golf, then lets get him a big golf club groom’s
cake. If he is in the military, let’s have a Saber Arch. If the groom is
very outdoorsy and loves to be on the river, let’s have a canoe be a
place to hold drinks. These are all just a few examples of how the groom can be
represented throughout the wedding with his own personal touches. Even if it’s
something small, your groom will appreciate it and love that you incorporated
him into the wedding. Remember, it’s the thought that counts!
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| Amy Little Photography |
Finally, all weddings are different and unique, just as are the
grooms in them. With that being said, every groom has the decision of how
involved they choose to be in the wedding planning process. In the end, all
that matters is both the bride and groom are happy and enjoy their special day!
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